Its universally agreed that men are less emotional than women, its not to say that there aren’t exceptions to the rule. There are so many myths about love and relationships many. Our valentine special seeks to put an end to some of the half-truths, here are a few tips every man should know about relationships.
THERE ARE NO STRAIGHT RULES
As universal as love is, no two stories are ever the same. What works for Hassan might not work for Sessan. A wise man once said, “Oh man, know thyself”. Strive to understand yourself and what works for your partner. The key to understanding is communication, don’t just talk, communicate. Express what you feel in your words, punch lines are great, but hey there’s no point going all Shakespeare on a Nigerian girl who doesn’t fancy that kind of talk.
SOME DAYS YOU WILL WISH YOU WERE SINGLE
You have single friends right? Some of them just make it their life’s mission to make you miss being single. Trust them to mock the hell out of you, keep late nights,disappear out of town on escapades, indulge themselves once in a while and come back with tons of gist for you. And God help you it coincides with one of your “love fights”. But you know what? Deep down, they are jealous and wish they were you. So chill.
THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE BETTER
No matter who you choose to love, you will always stumble into a better version, finer, taller, and smarter. Contentment is key, no one has it all and that includes you. So, if your brief is to keep looking for a physical upgrade then you have just signed up for a journey of no return.
LOVE WILL NOT FIX YOU
You have a personal problem? Go get some help. You have an addiction problem? Love aint fixing that. No ones perfect, but some people are a lot more damaged than others. All those stories about “she made me quit this and that..” is a fallacy. Bottom line is, when push comes to shove,old habits die hard. Expecting love to fix you is akin to spraying perfume on “poop” and expecting it to become a rose, give it time and the leopard will show its skin.
We live in strange times, and our notion of love is getting stranger. In our part of the world, giving in relationships seems very lopsided. The mainstream idea is that the man must give this and that. That not a bad thing, but moving forward, if you notice your woman is only in the business of receiving, RUN!!!
Material things aren’t the only things shared; time, advice and support are all intangibles that form the bedrock of long lasting romantic relationships. Love gives, and keeps giving.
CONFLICTS WILL ALWAYS ARISE
Experts say lack of conflicts in a relationship indicates a lack of interest and commitment. If its real, there will be disagreements and in some cases full blown fights. Beyond the raging hormones and emotions, the real test of commitment is the ability to come out of arguments and conflicts stronger.
LOVING SOMEONE AND HURTING THEM ISN’T MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE
Pain is part of life, no one likes it, but sadly it is part of the package. So is love. A way to know you love someone is that you always strive to make them happy, but we make mistakes, we hurt our partners. When your partner constantly causes you pain? The hurt becomes constantly unbearable? its time to drive off into a thick forest and dump that relationship. Your happiness is crucial and no one should take that from you.