The era of Sugar Mummies has been on trend for decades and despite the fact that such relationships don’t have a future, some young men still decide to give it a try.
According to a young man who recently opened up about dating a sugar mummy on Reddit thread, “you are a pet, and she (sugar mummies) will control your behavior.”
This is not very surprising, yet it does not deter some guys from posing as sex toys to these married or widowed ladies. They are willing to give pleasure as well as receive for the following reasons :
- Money and Unattached sex
- Easy lifestyle
- Psychological reasons
- Or maybe love
Reasons Young Men Go After Sugar Mummies
1. Easy Lifestyle
Nothing makes life easier than living a stress-free, pleasure filled lifestyle. As far as wealthy sugar mummies are concerned, a life of luxury awaits their sugar babies, or so it seems. Any man who desires to have the good life without having to work hard for it opt for an older rich woman willing to satisfy his dreams.
Like LEIFey would say of his sugar baby friend: “He got expensive gifts all the time, was always going to fancy restaurants, and she (sugar mummy) let him drive her luxury Sedan around whenever he wanted. Plus he got to stay at her swanky apartment rent free.”
Unfortunately for such a sugar baby, it comes at the cost of his dignity, as he doesn’t have a say in much and low self-esteem could set in.
2. Free Money and Sex
Money makes the world go round and most people are willing to lose more than their dignity for it. The relationship game between sugar mummies and their sugar babies is a win-win for both parties; the former brings the cash while the latter brings sex and any scrap of affection he can afford to fake – most of them fake their affections.
Young men who follow sugar mummies strictly for the money are like those who believe the money quote which says;
“Money can’t buy me happiness, but I would rather cry in a mansion.”
As for the sex, it comes in handy. Men are sex-driven beings, so the notion of getting sex with no strings attached is a catch for most guys as the burden of pregnancy, marriage is out of the equation.
The world revolves around being highly connected to whatever organization, person or party that can bring certain benefits and in most cases, financial benefits.
This applies to the super ambitious young men and if there’s a chance sugar mummies could be the fastest route to getting to the top, they’ll take it.
The problem with this kind of motive is that the sugar mummy does not usually feel comfortable flaunting her sugar baby to avoid being scorned by the society. Maybe that can only work in the western world among celebrities.
4. Psychological Reasons
Believe it or not, these things can be psychological in the sense that a male child who didn’t get a lot of love from his mother can grow to seek affection from older women to fill the void.
Although it’s not always about not having a mother. Some young men have actually confessed to finding younger girls too shallow for their liking, thus they opt for older women who they feel are more mature and sensible for long lasting relationships.
Okay! This part is a little complicated but I think the story of how the President of France, Emmanuel Macor ended up marrying his wife Brigitte – his high school teacher – can give a little insight. Although in Macron’s case, he gets to marry her, after all, love can be found in the strangest places or persons.
There are several instances where a young man can fall in love with an older woman and a 2015 study of over 450,000 online daters has found that some men between the ages of 20 and 29 prefer to date older women.
According to a psychologist, Sam Owen, the reason for this interest in older women from younger guys probably has a lot to do with how society is changing.
“[It’s] likely indicative of the change in gender roles in modern society towards more equality between the sexes,” says Owen. “Young men nowadays probably also recognize that older women are adept at diligently juggling so many responsibilities (career, children, housekeeping, fitness, finances, socializing), which makes them intriguing and attractive and a more secure option.”
What other reasons do you think necessitates this trend? Feel free to comment below…