Gongo Aso singer Abolore Akande, popularly known as 9ice, talks about the problem with modern marriages. In an interview with veteran TV personality Funmi Iyanda, the father of four reveals that as a typical Yoruba man, he still want his woman to serve him food and kneel down.
In an interview session on her YouTube series ‘Ask Funmi’, Funmi Iyanda, said she was sad that his marriage hit the rocks and asked if he was married again as the papers report.
This he denied and when Funmi asked him to clear the air on his marital status, 9ice said:
“I’m single but I’m not searching because it’s not part of my priority right now. I’ve dealt with this topic so many times and people just tend to take the negative side of it but it’s like they don’t understand what I’m saying because they’re not in my shoe.
“Marriage is not for this generation… I have my reasons(for saying that) because, as a Nigerian, as a Yoruba man, there are some culture and tradition that you’re being taught when you’re being brought up as a man. You want the same thing from your wife (but) you’re not going to get it from today’s woman. because then we have exposure. They are the ones that sent us to school. And I still want my woman to serve me food and kneel down. Ejo Aunty, who’s going to do that for me now?”
He continued: “but you’re not going to get that as a man, so we today’s men, we need to get that into our thick skull that you’re not going to get the same thing your mom is giving to your dad. You are going to get something different because who you’re getting married to is quite different from your mom. But we are not ready. That’s why you see that this generation are losing marriages, six months and it’s dissolved.”
The Gongo Aso singer went on to advise people to marry for the right reasons and not out of societal pressures and asked that people are certain beyond all reasonable doubt before going into marriage.
“So we should hundred percent get married for what will make you happy. Regardless of the culture, regardless of your parents, get married because you want to get married. Get married because it will make you happy. Don’t get married because Tinuke got married.”
He also warned couples not to go through with marriages if they become uncertain before walking down the aisle.
Before you go to the altar, like five to ten minutes, your mind will be telling you that this thing is not going to work. It happened to me, but I felt it because I was like ‘come on, I have so many things to lose more than what I’m going to gain’. Because if I do that, it’s like I’m against the rest of the world.”
9ice also revealed he is leaving politics to return to his music career.
“I want to do politics but the country is not ready, the environment is not ready, even the people are not ready. I am not Jesus Christ. Why do I want to fight for people that are not ready? Let me just focus on myself and my family,” he said.
9ice also revealed that he funded his 2015 campaign to represent his constituency at the House of Rpresentatives, despite having godfathers.