“I Was Abused” – Pastor Chris Ex-Wife, Anita Speaks About Life After Divorce


Pastor Anita, the ex-wife (so sad to say) of South Africa-based Nigerian pastor, Chris Oyakhilome has spoken for the first time about her broken marriage to the highly regarded pastor. Anita, who now goes by her maiden name ‘Ebhodaghe’ took to her blog to discuss her life without her husband and the changed that she has seen in her life, but not without making some serious references to her marriage.

It would be recalled that in a divorce suit filed in April 9, 2014 at Divorce Section A, Central Family Court, First Avenue House, High Holborn, London, United Kingdom by Pastor Anita, she demanded for a dissolution of their marriage of over twenty years on the grounds of “unreasonable behavior”. The marriage which produced two very beautiful daughters has since been dissolved and the children shared by both parents.

See what she wrote on her blog as a message to probably going through the same “abuses” she had to go through in her marriage. Read on:

“I am Anita. It is my desire to reach out and inspire you especially if you feel vulnerable and in need of a change. I hope to inspire you to believe in yourself no matter the circumstances. I want to help you recreate your life going forward, so you can live beautifully. I have been through this journey of rediscovery and nothing is as beautiful as realizing one’s uniqueness as I have done. Life is precious however, your life can go through different seasons: winter, spring, summer or autumn. Life can hit you with financial loss, disappointments, death of a loved one, a broken relationship, loss of a job, a divorce, being falsely accused or being a victim of crime. These can shatter you to pieces but you can do something about it.


“Life is a gift from God and you deserve to be happy irrespective of your age, race, gender, background or financial situation. I urge you to appreciate the gift you are, you are precious and valuable. Never lose sight of who you are; begin to create new visions and dreams for your life. Let nothing stop you from growing every day.

“My story is not one of a bed of roses, far from it but I had a choice to either beat myself over the regret of tolerating abuse for so long or put a stop to the abuse and recreate my life for the best. My journey was not in vain. I can now help others realize that their situation does not define them. In order to move on with life, I have come to realize that nothing is permanent. Your problem is not permanent; you can do something to change it by ensuring you do not allow the situation or the person make your life miserable. Pain is a fact of life, it is inevitable but suffering is optional. You can do something to change the pain by over looking every obstacle, take control as a force of nature to grow and expand. Do what is necessary now to use the gift God has given you to unleash your purpose.

“My message to all is simple: you have value therefore discover your potential. Do not allow anybody destroy you or rob you of living a joyful life. Your life is not wasted; you have just started a different phase of life. God will show you how to use your testimony to help others and restore their lives to exuberance. Please join me to encourage and inspire others. You have a story to tell, you can contribute and participate in the dialogues here. Let us all learn from one another’s experience and reach others with the gift of love and kindness. Share your experience by emailing me or making a comment. Celebrate your uniqueness because there is only one of you.

“Thank you for visiting my site.”

What do you think about this message, what do you see? Pain of regret or joy of freedom?