Talk show host, Oprah Winfrey who has been in a long-term partnership with businessman Stedman Graham for decades, has revealed why they never got married.
In the September issue of lifestyle magazine – Vogue, ‘ the living legend shares some words of wisdom while discussing her return to acting and the legacy of ‘The Oprah Winfrey Show’, which went off the air in 2011.
Oprah, 63, disclosed that though she and Stedman Graham have been together for more than 30 years, they have scarcely discussed walking down the aisle.
“Nobody believes it, but it’s true. The only time I brought it up was when I said to Stedman, ‘What would have happened if we had actually gotten married?’ And the answer is: ‘We wouldn’t be together.’ We would not have stayed together because marriage requires a different way of being in this world.
“His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.”
Explaining what she’s learned from choosing not to marry her longtime partner, Oprah Winfrey said: “Live life on your own terms.”
Last year, Winfrey shut down wedding rumors after reports emerged that the couple had tied the knot. “6 people who know me well have called today congratulating me or surprised they weren’t invited to my wedding,” Winfrey wrote on Twitter on September 5, 2016. “IT’s NOT TRUE!!”
In the interview with the Vogue took place in the teahouse of her opulent estate in California where she lives. The home, which Oprah purchased in 2001 and calls the Promised Land, spans a total of 65 acres and sits between the Santa Ynez Mountains and the Pacific Ocean. The estate also includes a grove of 12 trees she calls “the Apostles” and a fountain “the size of a lake that shoots water to the heavens.”
Speaking on some of the highs and lows in her life and career so far, Oprah explained why one shouldn’t wallow in failure and depression.
“I shall never forget Saturday morning, Oct. 17″—the day after ‘Beloved’ opened in 1998. “I got a call from someone at the studio, and they said, ‘It’s over. You got beat by Chucky.’ And I said, ‘Who’s Chucky? What do you mean it’s over? It’s just Saturday morning!'” Winfrey recalls.
“I knew nothing about box-office projections or weekend openings. It was 10 o’clock in the morning, and I said to [my chef], ‘I would like macaroni and cheese for breakfast.’ And so began my long plunge into food and depression and suppressing all my feelings.” What had been “the happiest time” in her life had turned into her a miserable, public failure.
“I actually started to think, ‘Maybe I really am depressed.’ Because it’s more than ‘I feel bad about this.’ I felt like I was behind a veil. I felt like what many people had described over the years on my show, and I could never imagine it. ‘What’s depression? Why don’t you just pick yourself up?” Oprah said.
Winfrey bought blocks of tickets to try to get Beloved‘s box office up. But, after six weeks, she snapped out of it.
“That’s when the gratitude practice became really strong for me because it’s hard to remain sad if you’re focused on what you have instead of what you don’t have. It taught me to never again—never again, ever—put all of your hopes, expectations, eggs in the basket of the box office. Do the work as an offering, and then, whatever happens, happens,” she says.