Abusive Relationships are a ‘NO No’ no matter how sweet it may look from the outside. Grand comedian of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, Ali Baba, has some listenable advice to give to people who are stuck in abusive relationships.
According to the 51-year old humor king, who has been married for 10 years and counting, some people involved in abusive relationships say the reason they can never leave their spouse is because they do not have wings.
So even the person advocating for their safety can not do much as the victims have become flightless. Below is Baba’s explanations of why such people can not live a dependent life despite being abused by their spouse.
“You must tell them where to fly to and how to fly there, then give them wings too,” Ali Baba says. “If that branch they perch on breaks… Kperen! They are going down. And anything they hold on to goes down with them.
“It’s the same way, a man who is drowning has nothing to keep them afloat BECAUSE THEY CAN NOT SWIM. Learn to grow wings. Learn to swim. Learn to be self-reliant. Learn to fly. Be INDEPENDENT.
“Let me tell you why some people remain in abusive relationships. The absence of wings. Not love. They are just wingless. That is the same reason, you see some people working with some foreign companies, and are being treated like second-class citizens in their own country, yet they can’t walk away from that job because that job is the only wings they can fly within these winds of change.
“Some days ago, a young friend of mine quit her job to face her passion for serving sweets and desserts at events. Wings. The branch of the tree doesn’t even need to break before you fly.
“How many times have you been let go in an organization and you move on and your potentials make you a better talent, that you get head hunted again with higher pay and better package than those you left there. Cc #Pogba… Or a lady leaves you and you begin to drown in your self-pity because without her you are nothing. Grow wings man!!!
“Don’t let people meet you the way they left you. Upgrade. Stop being a non-flying bird. Think of it, what is it that you have that can make you pick up from the biggest crash and climb again? If you don’t have any, that is when you sink with every challenge or when you are abandoned in the oceans of helplessness.
“Grow wings girlfriend. Don’t let any man clip your wings. Like those men who say you can not work if they marry you. That’s clipping your wings. What did you spend years getting your wings for?
“C’mon people take flight!”