Popular Nollywood actor, Yomi Fabiyi who was once married to a British woman has shared his thoughts on divorce, revealing why some people are destined to fail in marriage.
In a new post via his Instagram, the Yoruba actor who had in 2016 announced that he was divorcing Fran – his British wife of four years also shared tips on how to enjoy a marriage. He wrote:
“MARRIAGE is an institution that must be built on a SOLID FOUNDATION; CASTED with several conducts and attitudinal traits before marriage. Marriage is never a bed of roses, it has many ups and downs which needs strength of character to sustain.
“Often times I hear some females opine that it is efficacy they get loose sexually and experience it to the apogee and will round up and turn a new leaf the moment they are getting married. These they assume they can do this until it is crystal clear the wedding is taking place. Some console themselves they rather go on escapades as single as avoidance of such fantasies as a spinster will mean the lady will cheat as a married woman, TOTAL LIES, no sense in the codswallop.
“The honest truth is this, what you are ADDICTED to becomes part of you for a long time. I stand to be corrected, there are some traits that one must not get neck deep into at ones formative years, it will be hard to adjust from them even if one becomes an SU in marriage.
“To really enjoy any marriage, especially in a world where the fundamentals of home training to prepare a girl or boy for the core of matrimony has long been jetissioned, one must take it upon him or herself to engage in some self discipline to create a sexually abstract and physical DNA that can stand the test of time in marriage. You cannot eat your cake and still have it.
“Some of us are package destined to fail in marriage. If we ever last in any marriage, it may be perhaps because we are hoodwinked with someone who keeps us as an evidence of social responsibility, sexual satisfaction, and continuation of the human race only. Some men know their woman cannot be tamed but are not ready to be bothered with what their vows, ring or cert cant change anylonger. They just look away.
“IF YOU DONT DISCIPLINE YOURSELF IN SOME ADVANCES NOW, CHANCES ARE YOU MAY FIND IT HARD TO IN MARRIAGE EVEN WHEN YOU HAVE BINOCULARS ON YOU. Be wary of what you get addicted to. Ask yourself now, WHAT VALUES ARE YOU UPHOLDING PENULTIMATE A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP or YOUR EVENTUAL MARRIAGE? If NON, avoid getting married or just don’t invest too much in your marriage, it is most likely to……. Yomi Fabiyi.”
Shortly before his divorce in 2016, Fabiyi had stated reasons behind his decision to separate from his wife and strongly refuted claims that he married his oyinbo wife in order to secure a green card and legalise his stay in the UK.
According to the actor, among other things, the main reason why he separated from his wife was because they could not agree on where to live together as husband and wife.
In an Instagram post, Fabiyi had revealed that the plan they had before marriage was that his wife would move to Nigeria but she later developed cold feet and this led to a crack in their relationship. He wrote:
“It’s so sad that a lot of people never give me the benefit of the doubt. Only a handful think it is right to respect my freedom of choice.
“I have been unlucky in life, most of what I do normally have opposite impression irrespective of my positive mindset. I cannot help it and will rather prefer to continue to be as real as possible, I am used to being misinterpreted my entire adult life. I never aim to hurt anybody in words or actions before them or behind them. I am never raised that way.
“Hopefully Fran accepts my proposition to end this marriage now as I cannot continue this way, I am not happy anymore as we edge close to the 4th year anniversary.
“Fran is such a beautiful woman, supportive and wish I come live in England, take up employment and study. I have used her documents to renew my normal visa only, so no question she is not willing, I never said that. With all humility, if she never promised me she was coming to take up employment in Nigeria and live with me, maybe we might not have secured the dating. I have made it abundantly clear I am not prepared to live abroad as my career was just gathering shape then. I am focused on my career and keeping my fans and admirers entertained. I have an absolute right to do whatever makes me happy provided it is nothing criminal, illegal, immoral or anti-social.
“I am NOT interested in the reason two adults came together. It’s crude and an uncivilised thing to do for me. I hope to find true love again while I push for a hitch-free divorce as soon as possible. I will be fine guys.”