Every little girl looks forward to her wedding day, every princess dreams of her prince, and every woman desires a husband. In as much as it is not the duty of a woman to seek for or find a man, but to be found by one, it is her obligation to screen through her list of men so as not to tie the knot with the wrong guy. Not every man is marriageable, just like they say with woman, but the issue is that most Nigerian women have met worse men than the ones on this list but believe he would change with time. The hard truth is – no woman is capable of single-handedly changing any man without his approval. Rather than wish for the impossible, why not go for the possible – the man with a lighter baggage that you can cope with because it is better to remain single than marry any of the men on this list.
1. A Man Who Still Adores His Ex
This man professes love to you 24/7 but he still creates time for his EX in the disguise of ‘just friends’. He hasn’t really gotten over her and he keeps comparing you with her at the slightest chance he gets. He can never truly love you like he claims because he still has remnants of her in his system and this will continue even after he marries you, so don’t even say yes to him until you are sure he is emotionally detoxified.
2. A Perfectionist
It is not just about him being meticulous about everything like his clothes, food, house and properties. It extends to how he feels about you. A perfectionist would always try to make you perfect, and if it is not working, he would wonder if you are the perfect woman for him or if there is someone out there who perfectly fits into his dream woman. These kind of men are just not worthy of your attention or commitment.
3. A Relationship Novice
Marrying a guy who has never dated anyone before you is a whole lot of work as compared to the one who had several girlfriends before settling down. He would know practically nothing about handling a woman or dealing with a relationship. So get ready to sail the ship if you must marry him. On the other hand, you must question the fact that he has been single all the while, it could be a trap or he might be hiding something from you.
4. An Abusive Man
Nigerian ladies know better on this one, but a number of them still walk down the alter with an abusive man. Whether physical or emotional, you do not have to put up with an abusive man, you deserve better. Once you notice that trait in him while dating, look for the nearest exit and start plotting your escape map. Statistics show that it starts with one slap and continues till it gets to a stab and then murder. Girlfriend, be wise and secure you future by letting him go, a better man will come around sooner than you think.
5. A Rebel
It’s confusing how most ladies get attracted to gangsters and bad boys. There’s just something mysterious and romantic about marrying a militant or a Boko Haram member – he appears to offer you security with his razz personality, but the truth is that a societal rebel will also rebel in his marriage and worse – produce rebellious kids. There are more responsible men out there, a rebel is not worth your love.
6. A Narcissist
Narcissus was an ancient Greek mythological figure who was so beautiful that he fell in love with himself, but because he couldn’t leave his own reflection in the water, he eventually drowned. A person who is a narcissist is so convinced of their own greatness that they don’t see their weaknesses. Marrying a narcissist is a very one-sided relationship. They’re always trying to flaunt their own greatness often at the expense of others. The marriage will usually be all about him and with time you will become invisible.
7. A Control Freak
Everybody likes to have things their own way. Unfortunately, because men are socialized to express hostility and anger when they don’t get what they want, a man who is a control freak can often become intimidating and even abusive – physically or mentally. Run for your dear life, you don’t need to be controlled by a freak.
8. A Cheat
There is this myth most Nigerian women have that when a cheating man gets married he stops cheating. Well, the reverse is the case because he will only get better in the act. It is a bad idea to consider such a man for marriage. Cheats hardly change who they are, no matter how many times they promise they will.
9. A Mummy’s Boy
Having a man who cares for his mum is adorable, but when he begins to worship her, his wife-to-be is in for a long thing. This kind of man can not do a thing without consulting his beloved mother. She practically tells him to jump and all he does is ask ‘high how?’ So you better get used to hearing, “My mom doesn’t do it that way.” And you better get used to his mother being your marriage counselor, too.
10. A Pretty Guy
When you choose to marry not just a handsome man but a pretty one, just get ready for regular drooling from all the girls in your estate. This kind of man is also very body conscious and might be the one ordering for the latest Zaron lip balm and the latest J’lo perfume. You would have a lot to put up with if you consider this kind of man for marriage.
11. A Pushover
As mentioned before, everybody likes to have their own way. So when you find a guy who lets you do whatever you want and doesn’t complain about it, you want to grab him up. But after a while you’ll find yourself making all the decisions. And then you’ll find yourself complaining because he doesn’t pull his own weight.
12. The Manly Man
This guy talks about sports, beer and hunting all the time. He doesn’t help out in the kitchen and would not help out with changing diapers as well. He is also not romantic and is likely to forget Valentine’s Day or your wedding anniversary. Don’t get it wrong, he shouldn’t be weak or too strong – average is the best.