After suffering from a heartache in her previous relationship, 48-year-old web designer Barbarella Buchner decided it was over with humans and decided to try love with her two cats Spider and Lugosi.
Incredible as this may sound, Barbarella thinks she has not only found one, but two soulmates in the form of her male moggies, Spider and Lugosi. Her devotion to them is so strong that 10 years ago she even married them in an online ceremony.
She claims they are the loves of her life and that she has no regrets and doesn’t care what people say.
Barbarella said she has always been an animal lover.
As a child I was surrounded by cats. Our family regularly owned at least one or two. They were my favourite animal.
At 34, when she finally got the chance to adopt her own cats, she took the opportunity very seriously.
For me, it was like when you know you’re having a baby. Before you have a baby or adopt a child, you look on the internet to learn as much as possible and read lots of books.
That’s what I did before I got my cats.
It was love at first sight when I laid eyes on my boys, Lugosi and Spider, I’ll never forget that day.
They were rubbing against the cage and purring. I knew I wanted those cats… I could tell the feeling of love was mutual judging by their purrs and the way they were brushing their little faces against the bars. That was it; they were coming home with me.
In 2004, Barbarella decided to make their love official and looked into ways to marry her cats. She found a website called. The site has a list of rules they expect the human marrying their pet to adhere to – such as ‘You are not allowed to mistreat your pet in any way’ – and once Barbarella had been approved and had paid a small fee of about £20, she tied the knot with Lugosi and Spider in a quickie online ceremony, where she clicked on the words ‘I do’.
Marrying Lugosi and Spider was something I had to do, for myself.
Some people may call me a bigamist for marrying two cats or even call our marriage incest because they’re brothers. But I’ve never been one to care about what other people say or think, especially when it has anything to do with my cats and the unusual relationship I have with them.
She said she doesn’t think she has it in her to be a wife, built to clean up after a man, which is something she doesn’t like to do but, would never mind being her cats’ servant.
I’m not a submissive person but I’ll do anything for Lugosi and Spider.
If a man ever approaches me, I just tell them straight off, “Sorry, I’m married to my cats.” If they think it’s odd, I don’t care.
She claims she doesn’t have sex with her cats.
Obviously I don’t have sex with my cats. It’s just pure, spiritual, unconditional love on both sides, as simple as that.