Adultery in Nigeria and Africa at large is considered a moral taboo. However, with the rise and rise of pornography and nudity on the internet, sex has become a cheap commodity and also easily accessible. Sex with only one partner is gradually becoming obsolete and the desire to try out new things in the bedroom is taking over our sex vocabulary. Unfortunately, this rave does not exclude the already married ones.
It is almost impossible to surf the net for an entire day without reading up some report of adultery somewhere, even among celebrities. This has portrayed sex in the context of marriage as boring and unexciting and is also painting the forbidden fruit of adultery as fun-filled and emotionally gratifying. Nigerians are not exempted in this corruption also especially with the fact that men are allowed to marry as many wives as possible in this parts of the globe. The unsatisfied wife will have to either live with it or move out of her matrimonial home, thereby paving the way for a “new wife” to come in and so the circle continues.
But surprisingly, most married Nigerian women take pride in the fact that they have found the keys to their man’s heart (abi, their man’s little John) and would boast that he cannot cheat on them. Some even go as far as saying that their man “dare not” cheat on them. But knowing that men are seed-givers (if you know what I mean) and that sex comes naturally to them, the women that say the above must have done their homework very well.
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But the question is: What will you do (as a married woman) if you come back to your house and find a female lingerie that you are sure is not yours in your matrimonial home, particularly your bedroom? “He is definitely guilty,” I can hear someone scream. But what if he is not?
A lady was faced with the same situation and posted online how she managed to deal with it and this would provide some lessons for most women who may allow prejudice get on the better side of them in such situations. You can read her post as seen on Girltomom.com but I must warn you that she added some graphic pictures:
What I did when I saw a woman’s panties in my wardrobe
“I wish this weren’t true, but unfortunately, it is. Today I was looking for a bag in my closet and noticed a folded black bag stuck in my shelves where I keep my purses that I didn’t immediately recognize. This didn’t throw me too much, I collect a lot of odd bags and sometimes save ones for years- sometimes I give them away or use them for a picnic lunch or something. My sister is a magazine publisher and she gets free goody bags and often gives it away, etc., etc… So I unfolded the bag and now I really didn’t recognize it. It had the names of chi chi International cities on one side and 5 star world hotels on the other.
“Still no clue. So I look inside…
“Ahhhhhh! A pair of long pink rubber gloves and a pair of dirty panties that are not mine! Yes, I took out the panties and looked at them. Not my brand, not mine, I’m sure of it. I don’t have any Maidenform. I am about to post a picture of the panties, so do not click if you don’t want to see the grossness I saw!
Wait for it…
“Ahhhhhhhhh!!!! My eyes!!! They were stained, and had some black stuff on them! Could it be…mold?! Nasty!!! Divorces have happened over much less. I haven’t had any female friends stay over lately who could’ve left a bag. We don’t have a maid. My husband said “remember when the landlady brought over an architect last week?” Well, I left the house, I wasn’t here, but my husband said the architect had a female assistant who was measuring things for him. Well, I imagine she’s pretty good at measuring things, hmmmm?
“I believe my husband, I just don’t think he’s cheating on me what with all the nookie he’s getting at home. It’s not his character at all. The only other thing in the bag was a man’s business card, but I won’t print his name and number here. Not sure if the dude is married and don’t want to ruin his life if he is. Now what do we do, call our landlady to get the girl’s number and return her moldy panties? Awkward!”