Polyandry At Its Best: Woman To Marry Two Men In Kenya


Sylvester Mwendwa and Elijah Kimani decided and agreed to enter into a polyandry marriage contract with Joyce Wambui. Polyandry is a form of polygamy where a woman is allowed to marry more than one husband at the same. It is the opposite of polygyny.

Wambui is in her late twenties and is a widow and mother to twins. She had dated and kept the two men for four years. When Sylvester Mwendwa and Elijah Kimani of Kisauni in Mombasa County, Kenya learned that the woman whom they both thought to be faithful was cheating on both of them, they struck an odd deal: The men decided that they should both marry the woman and live together in peace. Resorting to keep the two men rather than letting one or both of them go, the three of them signed a consensual agreement of allowing the relationships go on within the three of them.

According to Abdhallah Abdulrahman, a local police officer who attempted to make peace between the trio.

I heard people fighting and went to check, but I was surprised to see two men fighting over a woman who is said to be a widow and a mother of twins. We discussed everything, and they agreed that even if the woman were to fall pregnant they will raise the child as their own since they have been taking care of the woman’s children together.”

Sylvester Mdendwa opened up to BBC Focus on Africa saying that the agreement was a logical conclusion as he and Kimani had been in conflict over Wambui.

He added that it may not be legal or normal, but he did it to avoid being at variance with his co-husband. In His words

It could have been very dangerous if the other man would have come to her house and caught me. So our agreement is good as it sets boundaries and helps us keep peace. She is like the central referee. She can say whether she wants me or my colleague.

Also, Kenya’s NTV station published an excerpt of the contract and it states:

We have agreed that from today we will not threaten or have jealous feelings because of our wife, who says she’s not ready to let go of any of us. Each one will respect the day set aside for him. We agree to love each other and live peacefully. No one has forced us to make this agreement.”

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The cardinal question is; If either of the man dies will she be called a widow?