Everything has a rule, even a relationship. There are certain things that a guy would say to a lady on a first date which would determine whether there will be another date.
Most Nigerian men are not perfect when it comes to wooing a lady. Due to ego, some men assume that they can convince any girl to date them, irrespective of what they do or say.
This principle might work for only a few but a higher percentage of ladies expect a prospective boyfriend to be on point in his manner of approach as well as in his intentions.
First impression matters a lot. If you get it right on a first date, you are more likely to get a second date and more. Ladies do not appreciate a braggadocio, so mentioning your achievements to a lady you are getting to know will only turn her off.
Unfortunately, most Nigerian guys think this is the best way to get a girl since most ladies are materialistic. Well, you’ll need to change your vocabulary. Here are some silly things most Nigerian men say to ladies that should be avoided on a first date.
1. I Love You
Okay Pause! How can you possibly love someone you are still getting to know? That would be lust and a huge lie for you to say. In as much as you feel something for her, it is definitely not love, so saying ‘I love you’ either makes you a liar or a confused fellow.
2. I Am the Son of . . ./ the CEO of . . .
Some men cannot camouflage on low key because they think if she knows who’se son he is, or where he works, it might boost his reputation. Well, here’s the shocker, women do not like it when men strike them as being proud.
Some ladies might be overwhelmed by your status, some do not care and may look down on your proud tellings. If you are not her type, being the son of Dangote will not change that.
3. You Look Like My Ex
Really! Comparison to an ex; who may still be her competition, is a ‘NO NO Liner.’ Tell her she looks pretty and not liken her to someone you once had feelings for.
That will only make her a second option; because your ex is no more available, you want to settle for her look-alike.
4. What Are Your Statistics?
Now this would piss women off totally. It is irritating when men walk up to ladies and within few minutes start to ask them for their statistics when the guys do not work for modelling agencies.
This is a lustful question and most ladies may frown at it. Not only is it inappropriate, it could sound as a rude shock to the lady.
5. I Can Buy You Anything You Want
Ladies do not like it when they meet men who see them as cheap,with the assumption that they would fall once they know their financial needs can be taken care of.
Some ladies would rather walk in rags with pride than date men who would give them clothes and later make them feel worthless. Some men even go as far as saying ‘I Can Take You Round the World.’ Not every woman enjoys these exaggerated promises, especially if the man is trying so hard to buy her love.
6. I Will Give You Satisfaction
This is really disgusting and most men say it even though not in black and white. Not only is it inappropriate to say this to a woman, it is embarrassing for a lady to be addressed like that when she is not a prostitute. Even though ladies worry about the sexual performances of their partners, they do not appreciate it when men propose this to them while asking them out. It makes them feel like the men are after their bodies and nothing else.
7. I Want to Marry You
This line might captivate the heart of teenagers who do not know what life is talking about. However, saying it to a lady in her late twenties and above, suggests that you are either mocking her or plan to use the marriage liner to get into her panties.
Having said all of these, courtesy demands that the next time you are about to sweep a lady off her feet, you should stay clear off the above phrases. Be yourself and she will love you for who you are.